Hi guys, happy Friday!
Every Friday, I think of that one Shrek meme, where he’s like “Gracias a Dios que es Viernes.”
Anyway, not what I’m here to talk about today. I have a confession… I am dramatic. Very dramatic. The type of dramatic that I am annoying and pessimistic when things don’t turn out my way. That’s also the thing; I’m not dramatic about every situation. Which, duh, that makes sense.
I’ve noticed lately with more adult conversations I’ve been having, particularly with my boyfriend, that I don’t know how to deal with certain topics without thinking it’s the end of the world. It’s been causing fights and a lot of mean things being said. By me, if I want to be honest.
It just seems that his calmness almost comes off as indifference. I try to explain it so he understands where I’m coming from, but we have very different ways of thinking. I think when things don’t turn out we should have a little bit of time to mourn in a way or reflect. Basically, I want to be able to feel sad for a little bit before regrouping. We’re doing things that are, or at least feel like they are, big things in our lives, and those things not turning out the way we planned… well it hurts.
Bubz, my Vanilla man, he just keeps it moving, just focuses on the solution. Which I’m not complaining about, I need action. I need someone to slap me back into reality. (No real slaps obviously, but you get my point.) I need someone to keep me grounded. I would just also appreciate my feelings to be validated and just a bit of a pause, a breather before we move on to our next plans. I’m being vague here and please understand, it’s because it applies to more than one type of discussion and plan we have so no need to apply just one example.
Anyway, I’ve let him know of this and hopefully, that helps us both feel better in the long run. He’s promised to have check-ins on how I’m feeling. This is very Gen Z of me, I KNOW, okay. He’s very much a millennial, and usually, I am too, but for this, I’m sorry, I’m sensitive and I’ll own it.
Thanks for reading, sorry for the rant. I’ll talk to you guys next week, either on the podcast (new episode on Wednesdays!!) or here on the site.
Much love,
-IC
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